When hurt happens in a relationship between a husband and a wife does reconciling mean having a new “normal” relationship with a spouse because of a lack of trust or does a lack of trust mean that true reconciliation has not happened?

I have heard many times these words, “she saide she forgave me how come she doesn’t trust me, tell her she needs to trust me!”  There is no doubt that trust is essential in a relationship and that the only way someone will give trust is if the one being given the trust is perceived to be trustworthy.  That is why I believe that reconciliation and restoration of a relationship is more like a spectrum which as trust is restored there is a deeper level of reconciliaiton that takes place.  Trust takes time and consistency over a period of time.