If I have hurt someone should I seek forgiveness or should the person who has been hurt be the one who initiates teh process?  In Matthew 5:23-25 Jesus speaks to the person who is aware that their brother has something against them and tells them to go and make it right, to settle matters quickly.  In Matthew 18:15 and following Jesus talks about the person who has been sinned against and tells them that they should go to the person who has offended them.

It seems that the issue is a matter of awareness.  So if you are aware that you have been sinned against or you have committed a sin against someone – make it right.  Jesus places a high value on relationships.